How to Write a Eulogy / Funeral Speech – A Few Wise Words

If you’ve recently lost a loved one, you may find yourself in the position of writing a funeral speech (also known as a eulogy)  for them.  Congratulations to you. Please realize this is a great honor… and its a true gift that you can give to the bereaved. A eulogy is a true celebration of the life.  It is a true reminiscence of the life that the deceased lived and the many ways that they impacted the world around them.

But, if you’re like most people, you may not actually know how to write a eulogy.  Where do you start? What do you include? How do you end it? How do you not offend anyone? How do you do it without crying? If you’re like most people, many questions arise.

You see, it’s not like writing any other type of speech—a eulogy has to be heart-felt, memorable, respectful, truthful, and help to bring closure following the loss of a loved one…

However, it’s very rare than a eulogy captures all of these… and that is totally okay.  Part of this is the fact that you’re often very emotional at the time.  Learning how to write a funeral speech is difficult enough by itself, but when you add in the fact that you’re grieving for your loved one and it can seem darn near impossible.

But please, I do not mean to scare you. Trust me, writing a funeral speech can be one of the most awarding events of your life — and can do tremendous things for the grieving.  It will also help you appreciate your own life and your surroundings. Below, I will go into few ways that you can learn how to write a funeral speech quickly, easily, and with a little less stress.

You Can Learn How to Write a Eulogy in Many Ways

How to write a eulogy

How to write a eulogy? It can be a frustrating process. One must use time and patience and do their homework. But when the work is done, it can be one of the most rewarding experiences of your life.

You can learn how to write a funeral speech from several sources.  Today, everyone seems to immediately jump on the internet to learn something new, and learning how to write a funeral speech is no exception.  You’ll find many different websites online that talk about eulogy writing, and many even include sample eulogie / eulogy examples that you can look at for inspiration.

You’ll find that  some of these websites are much more helpful than others, so you’ll probably have to spend an hour or so looking at various tips and templates before you can start writing.  You’ll also have to wade through a number of unhelpful sites on eulogy writing. This can be stressful — but its all part of the information overload that we now live in.

(You will find some treasures, however, much of the quality content on the internet these days requires payment. That is because many people post un-quality content on the internet with goals to monetize the content through selling ad space. This is a time where investing a small amount of money can create a massive shortcut to you.)

Another place to learn how to write a funeral speech / eulogy is your local library or book store.  A quick search should turn up a few books on eulogy writing or, if you can’t find any of those, a few books of collected eulogies.  The writing books often contain exercises to help you get warmed up and brainstorming idea exercises that can help you collect your thoughts.  These are very helpful in creating an outline of your eulogy.

Learn How to Write a Eulogy by Following Examples

As mentioned before, books of collected eulogies can also be helpful.  In fact, these can sometimes be incredibly beneficial. These are oftentimes filled with tons of eulogy samples and examples that you can model your own speech from. These might be a great way to start out writing your funeral speech.

By examining the samples and examples of funeral speeches, you can also discover many ways of incorporating humor or personal commentary into your eulogy.  They can also show you how to write a eulogy that presents events that may be unflattering to members of the audience in a way that won’t upset them or make them angry.  Talking about things like this is often one of the most difficult aspects of writing a eulogy.  If you know your loved one would want such things said, you should do your best to incorporate them into your speech.  On the other hand, if you know your loved one would not want an ex spouse mentioned, then you should respect that wish, even if it upsets the ex.  These situations are just a few examples of what makes it so hard to learn how to write a funeral speech… and why its important that you know what you are doing when you go into it.

With that, I wish you my very best in your funeral speech writing. You can do it — and you can do it well. Just make sure to allot some time for proper planning and thorough preparation. If you have any questions on writing a funeral speech, feel free to email me or check out some our samples and examples available on our website.

Again, learning how to write a eulogy can be incredibly stressful but also very rewarding to yourself and to the audience who is grieving for this person. I have faith in you — you can do it. Take care.


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